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External stress, overload and FMS


I feel beat, busted and generally, infuriated, and trying hard to just, chill out. As I know full well, I am not helping myself here. But, let’s face it, sometimes life hands us things, that would piss off the Good Humor man ! Today was one of those days. We with FM, do not deal with overload, very well. That said, and more on it further down, a peek into my day. Pardon me while I vent a moment.

My car has been acting up pretty bad and I put it in the shop. Now some 6 mts ago, I had the front tires replaced, and a new ( to me anyway) rim put on, as the old one was bent.( With the pot holes we have here in Texas, no surprise ) But anyway, so replaced rim, that should have been the end of it, right ?

No such luck. When my mechanic got into the front end work a few days ago, he found that half the spindles the lug nuts go on, were broken ( including one they had recently replaced) and that both rims, were broken. Not only that, he found that the rim I had replaced, was the wrong size for my car.

Now, understand, I was back in that tire shop, no less than 5 times after getting the rim, as the tire would not hold air and the slight shake in the front, that started when they put it on, just got worse over time. Which they insisted, was not their doing, and had nothing to do with their parts.

My car man, who does all my car work ( but does not do tires ) is such a blessing, as he went out of his way, and took time out of a very busy shop, and came with me, to confront the person who sold me this rim. He even had his people, come to my house and get me.

He did his best, with his fellow shop owner and long story short, he was NOT impressed with the other shop owners behavior. I will not say what he really said, but let’s just say it was rude, and let it go at that. I could not follow it all, as they all spoke Spanish. But I know in general, what was being said.

So now, the entire front end tie rod ends, have to be replaced. Which I cannot lay at the tire stores door, as much as I would like to, As I was told of this problem, some time ago.

I am real suspicious of the fact that it started to “show “problems AFTER they got their hands on it, but cannot stay for certain, they created them. But their error’s did not help matters, and accelerated it into a major problem, long before it needed to be, that I can say, and have it be a fact I can be positive of.

Their error’s were A: the rim was the wrong size for the car, as I said. And the man who took it on and off, umpteen times, really loves his air wrench, as in grind, every time he put it back on. This despite me telling him over and over, don’t DO that. Not to mention, I have my doubts on how well he can use a tire machine, as if you do it wrong, you can mess up a perfectly good rim.

Now, as if all of this were not enough, the owner of the tire shop, seemed bound and determined to try and sell me a set of brand new rims, for a $100.00 bucks no less ( credit on the old used rim and normal price on the other new one ) I told him no way, I could not afford that.

( Not to mention, those used rims they all sell, are pure profit, as they cost them zero, as they are traded in when someone buys new rims, so he had already made money on it from me. Then had the gall to act like he was being generous, in that he would “credit” me the money I already paid him. In short, he was giving me almost nothing with that deal, he was just trying to make another $65 bucks off of me. The grand total of his so called discount ? $ 15.00 bucks ! )

To my mind, he owed me both rims, and the price of the spindles, at the very least. As the rim on the other side, should not have broken, and likely would not have, if not for his man’s mistake of putting one on the other side, that was the wrong size, making the whole thing, shake.

So, he finds yet another used rim and replaces the one I bought, for free as he said, which it was not, as I had already paid for it,( which I will have to keep a sharp eye on, as I no longer trust them ) and then has the nerve to tell me, that “sorry, don’t have another one for the other side, but you can still have the deal on two new ones for $100.00”

He told me this, after my car man left, as that was not how I understood things, while my car man was still there. So he was trying hard to cover his own mistakes,  and to make sure I never came back in again with rim problems. I can appreciate that from his point of view, but to try and make a profit on me, again, besides ? Can you say, rip off ? !

Now by this time, I am ready to spit nails. As this man, whose employee, totally messed up with the first rim I bought, aggravated, if not outright caused the front end problem ( to the tune of $300.00 + for repairs ) and then he DARES try and get me to pay for new rims !

No offer to even pay for the broken spindles, no offer for even token help with the price of the damages done. Never mind the fact that me running around with the tires in that condition, they could have literally, flow off the car, at any time, risking my life and anyone around me.

Which, if I wanted to press the matter, might be a good case for a lawsuit. I thank all the Gods for watching over my little car, that such an event, did not happen,

Well, by this time I had had enough of dealing with this man. I said to him, put the old one back on, I am leaving and you will never see my face again, while inside I am thinking ( insert many nasty words here ) and left, for a tire shop across the street I had dealt with before.

They remembered me and even gave me a good deal on a decent rim and made very sure it fit right, before they put it on. They even balanced it and all, for free for me. Thank the Gods for “Good” business persons 🙂  as I really needed that just then.

What this has done to my FM:

Now mind you, this was after getting almost nothing for sleep the day before, and a very busy day ( see my last post before this one, for details on why )  so I am wiped, flared, and felt like general crap, as soon as I opened my eyes this morning. It is over 105 degrees out there to boot, and I am having to deal with all of this!

I feel like they put ME under the car and used my head for the tire jack. Home now and feeling a little better, re hydrated, some pain killers taken and telling them to “hurry up”. But my point is, not to just tell you of a dreadful day, but to point out just how easy it is, to get into a major overload with FM, just in day to day living.

As these things happen. It’s hardly the first unethical business I have ever run across and I will take the proper steps, report them to the BBB, things like that, but the stress my body was already under for lack of sleep, spent all day at the clinic getting tests done etc the day before, now being combined with major emotional stress, and a body that was trying, desperately, to adapt to heat that is the highest yet, this summer. I am in a massive flare.

We with FM, just cannot deal with too many stressful things, at once. I was already stressed over having to put yet more money in the car, in the first place.

Our bodies, are already under massive body stress, on any given day of the week. Then I made the mistake, and I will admit it was a mistake, to let the Tire shop man, upset me.

What does emotional stress do to us ?:

Taking  just the body effects, they look like this…

Frequent headaches, jaw clenching or pain

Gritting, grinding teeth

Stuttering or stammering

Tremors, trembling of lips, hands

Neck ache, back pain, muscle spasms

Light headedness, faintness, dizziness

Frequent blushing, sweating

Cold or sweaty hands, feet

Dry mouth, problems swallowing

Frequent colds, infections, herpes sores

Rashes, itching, hives, “goose bumps”

Unexplained “allergy”attacks

Heartburn, stomach pain, nausea

Excess belching, flatulence

Constipation, diarrhea

Difficulty breathing, sighing   

Chest pain, palpitations

Frequent urination

Increased anger, frustration, hostility

Depression, frequent or wild mood swing

And that is just some of them. So no, we can ill afford, to allow external events, stress us out, no matter what the provocation is. Now, do we all do this ? Sure, but realize what it will do to yourself, and back up and back off, as soon as you get your wits about you, and you will fare better, over all.

More soon..

BB

Esta

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